I came into Surrey with goals — big ones. I wanted to excel in my degree, make meaningful connections, and contribute to the community. And I’ve done that, from working on initiatives like starting the Eastern and Southern African Society, to taking leadership roles. But with all of that comes responsibility, and with responsibility comes stress.

You quickly realize university isn’t just about attending lectures and submitting assignments. It’s about learning to be an adult. No one reminds you to rest. No one tells you to slow down. And when you care about succeeding, it’s easy to overwork yourself without even realizing it.

I’ve learned that adulthood means understanding that while grades matter, so does your wellbeing. It’s knowing when to push and when to pause. It’s asking for help, even when pride says otherwise. Some of the best decisions I’ve made at Surrey were simply reaching out — talking to friends, mentors, and staff who reminded me I’m not alone.

Stress still shows up, especially during exam season. But now, I meet it with more self-awareness. I take breaks. I allow myself space to breathe. I remind myself that rest is productive too. And I’ve learned that some of the most powerful support systems are the ones you build — through societies, community events, or simply shared late-night study sessions.

If there’s one thing Surrey has taught me, it’s that university is as much about personal growth as it is academic achievement. So yes, I’m still aiming high. But I’m also learning to give myself grace.

You’re not falling behind — you’re learning to carry more. And if you’re feeling the pressure, know that you’re not alone. You’re just becoming.